Wednesday, March 19, 2014

Pro-Life with exceptions?


“Unexpectedly pregnant at 42, she wanted to abort. The end of her story tore me up.
by Dave Andrusko
March 12, 2014

March 12, 2014 (NRLN)—The title of the deeply personal reflection at is, ‘I’m What? Accidentally pregnant at 42, I faced the hardest decision of my life (Why? Have we become so worldly that pregnancy does not bring joy to our hearts? What happened to the attitude expressed by Sarah?—my addition).’

This hit home for two reasons. My own mom, rest her soul, delivered my youngest brother when she was 40. My dad, an over-the-road truck driver, was gone and I drove mom to the hospital. To this day the experience remains as vivid as if it happened yesterday: while she was delivering James, I worked on a paper for a writing class my freshman year in college!

The other reason is that two of the most pro-life women I know have told me how conflicted they were (to put it politely), and torn (to be more candid) when they found out they were pregnant at 39 and 41 years old, respectively. As I often tell my ‘pro-choice’ friends who insist pro-lifers live in some parallel universe free of struggles and difficulties, we are just human beings, too. It’s what you do with these difficulties that matters.

We know from first-hand experience there are many, many instances where a pregnancy seems terribly ill-timed. We know the fear that a woman experiences, including the apprehension that she couldn’t be a ‘good mother’ at that stage of her life. (Dads can—and do—feel exactly the same sense of inadequacy.) That is a perfectly understandable reaction (If you trust in GOD?—my addition).

The story by ‘Nancy’ does a wonderful job conveying the emotional ups and downs. She and her husband had adopted two children after their attempts to have their own biological children failed, and then, wham (Isnt this even more reason to welcome a child?—my addition)!

She tells us her first response was denial, summarized in four words:

This cannot be happening.

You look for clues in the narrative to figure out why Nancy reaches the decision she does. It’s off to an ominous start—the understandable worries about her age, her bouts of morning sickness, her sense that she’s never really been into little babies, that this is SIMPLY TOO MUCH (It is one of the purposes of women! A major purpose of women! And of men! And it is a command of GOD or have we forgotten?—my addition).

[Genesis 1: 28 (NIV)

“God blessed them and said to them, ‘Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky and over every living creature that moves on the ground.’”

Genesis 9: 1 (NIV)

“Then God blessed Noah and his sons, saying to them, ‘Be fruitful and increase in number and fill the earth.’”

Genesis 35: 11

“And God said to him, ‘I am God Almighty; be fruitful and increase in number. A nation and a community of nations will come from you, and kings will be among your descendants.’”]

Nancy describes herself as a religious person who:

believes that God has a plan, and it usually works out if we just ride with it. In rare moments I can imagine this will all be okay, that Ill be able to handle three children and even like it. But most of the time I want to scream, What kind of sick joke is God playing on me? Im a weary mother of two with a high-pressure job and a house thats falling apart! I cant raise another child.

She wakes her husband up at three in the morning to discuss abortion (This I can not fathom! Why would one even discuss MURDERING ones own child! How could that even be an option? And my guess is that if it wasnt legal,” it would not have been!—my addition).

We talk for two hours, and the next morning we both feel relieved. Abortion, as awful as it is, feels like the right thing to do (Did you catch those words? “Feels like” “Right thing?” MURDER IS THE RIGHT THING?—my addition). Neither of us wants another child or feels equipped to deal with one, let alone what would be our first infant. More important, we both feel we have our familythese two girls are our babies, and we will never love anyone more. A biological child feels like an intrusion, a strange add-on to a beautiful family. The window of opportunity for more children is gone. Were done (“Feelsis used three more times!—my addition).’

But she decides she has to know what she is getting herself into. ‘If I’m going to have an abortion, I have to learn something from the experience. I can’t just look at this pregnancy as a mistake (The same word used by the President to describe why it would be acceptable for his daughters to MURDER their own children!—my addition),’ she says. A very revealing remark. Nancy tells friends who she believes will support her decision and finds that a surprising number have had abortions (Sad!—my addition). While they do not say ‘don’t,’ they are not cheerleaders on behalf of abortion, either.

What strikes you is how true to life this is—how so much of what Nancy feels reflects how good or bad she feels that particular day. After she has wrestles with going in for a ‘termination (MURDER!—my addition) consultation,’ she says:

Im only 75 percent sure about my decision. The other 25 percent is terrified that Ill never forgive myself for giving the baby up, that Ill always wonder what it (It?—my addition) would have been like. I pray for some kind of resolution. I just want a sign. We need to move on.

I don’t know if it qualifies as a ‘sign,’ but as she walks her oldest daughter to kindergarten she realizes she feels better even though the nausea remains strong in the morning. ‘I think about another child and feel that the possibility might be there,’ she writes. ‘After I drop her off, I end up walking all the way to work—a good 40 minutes—just to prolong the good vibe.’

The pivot in many ways may be that because of the conflicting emotions, she has put off her ‘termination consultation.’ And the baby that four weeks before ‘looked like a grain of rice,’ now (she is shocked to see [Why?—my addition]) ‘has arms and a head.’

Nancy tells us, ‘I walk out into the sunshine and realize I’m having another child.’

The conclusion will tear you up. At least it did me:

A week later Im sorting through summer clothes and packing some up for charity. Roma keeps taking things out of the giveaway bag, and I get annoyed. But Mom, she says, We need to save these for the baby. John and I havent said a word to her, but she already knows (She is also smarter than the parents! Im sorry! I still can not fathom why anyone would deliberately want to MURDER their own child!—my addition).

Everything is going to be okay. More than okay. Blessed? I think so.

Reprinted with permission from National Right to Life News.

Proverbs 14: 34 (NIV)

Righteousness exalts a nation, but sin condemns any people.”

Ephesians 5: 11 (NIV)

Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them.”

Galatians 6: 7-8 (NIV)

Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. Whoever sows to please their flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction; whoever sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life.”

It is time for all of us who support the morality established by GOD to rebel against the forces of evil! Expose their evil and return to GODS word and will!

Christians were bold in the First Century church! Are Christians as bold today?

Christians were resolute in the First Century church! Are Christians as resolute today?

Christians stood for the truth in the First Century church! Are Christians standing for the truth today?

If not Christians, who? If not now, when?

This is my two part suggestion to Tea Party groups, social conservatives, Constitutionalists, and anyone else who wants to save our Republic from the approaching destruction.

1) Run as many conservative candidates in as many Republican primaries as possible.

2) Then, run as many independent and/or third party candidates as possible in as many races as possible where we did not win the primary.

Competition is good for the economy and competition is good for the Republican Party!!! Competition keeps Congressmen committed to we the people!!! Primary Republicans who do not support the Constitution as written